Dan Weiss is 26, stands five-foot-six, weighs about 130 pounds, and has a thin chinstrap beard outlining his jaw—without the scruff, he looks 12.
This Tuesday afternoon in March is the first time we’ve ever met, even though he’s a freelance music writer and we’ve been e-mailing each other professionally for years.
As you can see, both are identical except for the photos and the fact one has ‘overweight’ as body type and the other has ‘thin’.
I also changed the wording slightly just in case OKCupid cottoned on and took them down.
The profile names had to be slightly different because the site won’t allow two the same.
I have no idea why I came up with them btw – it’s not even like A Night To Remember was stuck in my head.
And there was a link to Ask a Guy Who Likes Fat Chicks, an unsigned advice-column blog “for your plumper-related stumpers.” Entries happily, ravenously, robustly referenced double bellies, back rolls, and “big old ham thighs.” Feminine body shapes were compared to pears, apples, and one calabash squash; their weights spanned from 180 pounds to over 500. And “Fat Admirer” is the most frequent shorthand for straight men who prefer fat partners—the better-known term “Chubby Chaser” has become associated with the gay community.
“Big Fat Sexy Kitty,” a young woman who described herself as five feet tall and 260 pounds, wrote in: “I want fat sex. Too lazy to consider himself an activist, but cocky enough to be the mouthy weakling “who would be getting my neck rung by the bully and still saying shit,” Dan is ego-driven enough to envision a greater purpose.
The share of 18- to 24-year-olds who use online dating has roughly tripled from 10% in 2013 to 27% today.
He wore black-rimmed glasses and uniformly tight band T-shirts.
He had shaggy black hair that fell in wiry squiggles.
He asks her for her phone number and they start to date.
A couple of weeks later, Carter, Tom’s best friend, starts to notice the signs of Tom having a new girlfriend.